In Support Of Heather D’Aoust.

Dear District Attorney Dumanis,

My Name Is Joanne.I am writting you on behalf of milliaons of adoptees including myself.
Heather D’Aoust dose not deserve for her case to be treated as an adult,it is unfair and unjust , until you hear it from an adoptees point of view ,I would hope you’d change your mind.
heather and I come from the same mold,adoption and while I may not know her or her family now,I am being a voice.My birthmother had mental illness, she had ten kids all together and dumped them because she didn’t know what she was doing.In her mind she was right, she wondered streets of Ny,she was arrested two times once for giving a false name and once for carring her thyroid meds and vitamins which NYPD thought were drugs and instead of releasing her, she spent 21 days in jail because she didn’t have bail.
When My parents whom were foster parents at the time took my feternial twin sister and I in, they were told the angecy didn’t know the medical back round.For yrs my sister and I suffered minor things like a ankle that turned in or ear aches,as we got older thyroid conditions called goitas and then my sister acted out, not crimes just dumb teenager things.My parents couldn’t understand why, she’d be with the wrong kind of people or fighting with me.
I did not learn of my Birthmothers mental illness till 37 yrs later due to non id,I found out my natural grandmother died of a skin disease which my sister has now called sarcodios,there is no cure for it and she can die,I also found out about my other siblings.
Mental illness comes from the family line, not because of adopotion.This is something angecies across america hide from adoptive families so the child will be adopted and never brought back, if a child has mental illness and the agency tells the adoptive parents adoption may never happen,so in their eyes they keep hush on mental illness, nice huh?Then whats worse is when someone dose something bad like kill someone nobody stops to think, no they sterio type”adopted” and boom thats why, thats so wrong,there are people who do things to do it and people who do things and don’t relize they did it because mental illness got in the way, how cruel our justice system has gotten because they refuse to learn the truths on adoption and mental illness, they tuck it under the rug and hope it will go away,that wont’ happen.
I’m not saying”what Heather did was right”I am saying give her a chance, locked up in a jail is so wrong, there is other ways of handling this case, adult jail and mental illness do not go hand and hand, i have read cases that the help there is not effective and no place for a young teenager.I believe she should be tried as a child, face five yrs in juvi with an option to have probation/house arrest and counseling .It is unheard of in any state that where the child and or teen are not taken into consideration.heather I believe never ment to hurt her mother,I believe she never relized what she did until afterwards,I believe she loved her parents and never would of hurt anyone.
Heather and I also share birthdays one day apart, i am june 7th shes june 8th, how odd it is you come across a 41 yr old woman reaching out to help a soul mate and in return hope her words don’t fall on deaf ears.
I plead with you take heathers condition into view, relize it wasn’t her fault that mental illness which she can’t control but will someday was in her way that awful day and she honestly in my heart never ment harm to her mother.I beg of you to look at adoption in a new light and relize it’s not all the adoptees fault but the agencies as well and they should also be punished for withholding information from adoptive parents.
My parents said”if we knew now what we should of known then we would not of stopped loving you and would of never given you back”.Thats alot of love same with the D’Aoust family as well.

I thank you for your time, joanne a ny adoptee

read the petition and sign it.

I am best friends with one of the daughters of the D’Aoust family. To Joanne- I understand your your views on the sitation and I understand why you are saying what you wrote. You need to understand that mental illness, or not, she knew what she was doing. She told one of her friends of her plans to kill BOTH of her parents and hid the hammer the night before. The friend didn’t think she was serious so she never said anything. Also, the night before, Heather and her parents went to a movie and when one of the other daughters came home, heather and her parents were sitting by the fireplace playing a game. Also, in 2001 in California, a law was passed that anyone between the ages of 14-17 that commits a murder will be tried as an adult. Just because she is 14, now 15, and she is child, I have known her for her for years, she knows the difference between right and wrong, abd she knew what she was doing. She should be tried as an adult. There was over one thousand people at Beckys funeral and so many people are still mourning. The daughters and her husband are in such grief, which is understandable. On her myspace she constantly wrote blogs and posted messages saying how evil her parents were and how much she hated them. Her nick name for Becky was the “vulture”. I understand your defense for her but because you don’t trully know heather and her family, especially Becky, you can’t defend her in the way that you are. I understand what you are saying and I respect it but she should be tried as an adult, she deserves proper punishment for what she did.

Dear Friend of daughter in d’aoust family.How true is it that she even planned it?kids like to get into the spot light to to get noticed.
I have spoken to her lawyer whos a very nice man an dknows I understand most when it comes to adoptees and mental illness.I am not saying”what ehather did was right” it was wrong, way wrong, hwoever because i am ana doptee i have to say this please don’t take it wrong either.
My bm had ten or more kids, she dumped them ,my older sis in a box at a week old, left some of us in hospitals and walked away, she suffered mental illness bad, i didn’t find out for 37 yrs,If my bm had been in teh right stae of mind, she would of never of doen it, with no mental help back then she not only suffered but also probley died,I have forgiven her.
I know your close to the family but I truely believe heather needs to remain where she is because mental illness help in adult jails are not effective,heather should be given a chance to recieve proper help, be able to one day lead a productive life ,her father said it best”shes not evil” shes ill, she needs help.
I’m sorry if a petition upset you but no, i feel being tried as an adult when shes a 15 yr old child is not fair, there needs to be a fine line.I believe she loved her mother,no where have I read teh name you said nor the thing about teh friend, except she planned it and I find it hard to believe.
I feel bad for tehw hole family,theres alot of adoptees who will support this as they also feel the same, give her a chance.

My heart breaks for teh family everyday and i say a prayer, becky was like me a nice, caring, women,I still pray everyday.

First and foremost, I completely understand where you are coming and I understand your defense for Heather. I also hope that she gets help, she needs it. The name that she called her mother is on her myspace. Her myspace is one of the reasons that the decision was made to try her as an adult. Comments and blogs that she wrote often degraded her parents and she had “jokingly” talked about wanting her family dead. The information that her friend was told was not released to the public because it is going to be used in trial and the friend is a minor. I am not here to argue or bicker or undermine you in ANY way. I have taken many trips with this family and have spent enormous amounts of time with all of the members, including heather. I have had many conversations with her over the past few years and she has done strange things for attention and even just to do it and has been fully aware of what she has been doing. Granted none of them were anywhere close to this but they were situations that would make you think twice. When I think about this, I feel that I need to defend my best friend and the other sister. What happened to the family and heather is tragic. But I see them on a regual basis and no matter what is printed or said on TV in interviews, I am around them enough to know their true feelings and opinions. I am soooooo sorry for your experiences in life and I am glad that you have been strong enough to move past them and function and be able to go on and forgive. I just read your first letter and being in the position that I am in, I just had to voice a part of what I see here.

dear bsr,I can totally understand, seems miss heather needs a reality check and a few yrs behind bars, what i’m trying to say is this”don’t try her as an adult right now so she can egt effective mental help”wait till shes 19 go back an dthen maybe try ehr as an adult because mental help in jails are nto effective,i know this from personal experiance with a family memeber.her father wants her to have help and I feel for the whole family each day.
i know her sisters are beside themselves, i know they are lost and feeling alone.How is ehr father doing?How are the sisters?it’s been two months and i still feel for them, 18 people who signed the eptition makes no diffrence for ehather, because she’ll still stand trial but maybe the DA will consider getting her proper help .I thank you for posting me back you cna also email me as well.jo